Should you separate your children after divorcing?

On Behalf of | Jul 21, 2022 | Divorce |

It is sometimes the case that two siblings don’t get along or have a negative relationship. In other cases, there is a single child who needs one-on-one attention while the other is more independent.

Age gaps, differences in medical conditions and other situations may lead to parents asking if they should separate their children and place them on different custody schedules following a divorce. In some cases, that could be the right answer.

The courts want your children to a have a relationship

It should go without saying, but most courts want to see sibling groups stay together at least some of the time. However, there are exceptions. For instance, if one of your children is abusive to the other or one is young enough to need your attention much of the time when they’re with you, it may make sense to divide the custody schedules. This division doesn’t have to be permanent, but it could help make situations smoother and calmer in your home.

You have to do what’s in your children’s best interests

Remember that you have to do what’s in the best interests of your children. Would it be beneficial for you to have your teen through the week and your younger child only on weekends? Would it make sense to have each child in a different home throughout the school year but allow them to spend time together on breaks or holidays? The decisions you make will depend on what your children are like and how they interact with one another.

Splitting custody isn’t particularly common, but it’s not unheard of

If you’re considering split custody, know that you and the other parent are going to have a good reason for dividing your children’s time in that way. Even if you both agree to the terms of the arrangement, you may find that a judge doesn’t think it’s in your children’s best interests.

Gather good documentation and support for what you want to do. That way, you can show that you are putting your children first by making sure they have the support they need from each parent.